I hear this from people everyday,
“I know I am a powerful being. So why don’t I have the success I want yet?”
I define success as the conscious ability and process to freely and intentionally manifest our heart’s desires.
I am about to reveal to you 3 of the most common unconscious success blockages. And 3 steps for you to overcome them.
Success Block # 1: The Story Called “I Accept and Surrender”
“I am here to learn to accept life.”
“I surrender this to the universe…”
“If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be.”
When was the last time you said these things to yourself when you were hit with an urge to play bigger and to ask for what you really wanted in life?
Yes, I am talking about firing your boss and starting that conscious business you’ve been dying to start. I am talking about jumping on that opportunity that leads to your quantum leap. I am talking about that failing relationship of yours that you’ve been “trying” to fix for years.
It might sound very conscious and noble to “let go and let God.”
Surrendering is beautiful and necessary at the right times…except, most people do not have a full understanding of what true surrendering means and when to do it in order for the co-creative process to unfold.
The truth of the story called “it’s not meant to be”, 99.99999% of the times, is equivalent to your unconscious mind convincing you “I don’t have the power to create that.”
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(Btw, same goes for “I can’t afford that.” If you ever want to manifest financial abundance, this is the first story that NEEDS TO BE DROPPED).
Success Block # 2: Does Divine Timing Exist?
Divining timing is big among spiritual seekers, so much so to the point that whenever they don’t have what they want, they believe it isn’t divine timing.
If you’ve had any psychedelic/awakening experience, or if you’re an avid meditator, you know time doesn’t exist.
You also know that you are the Universe. Or, an expression of it.
So when you are convincing yourself it’s not the right timing (and doing an awesome job while you’re at it), you are taking yourself out of the equation.
WHAT YOU ARE REALLY DOING is telling the bigger part of you “I am choosing not to create that right now.” And the bigger part of you ALWAYS responds by giving you more of what you convince yourself to be the truth at the moment, regardless of whether it’s the actual truth or not.
Since all future possibilities are activated in the only moment that exists for anyone, the moment of NOW; if you don’t call in what you want now, then what you want isn’t going to come.
To be exact, divine timing does exist, but it has nothing to do with actual linear time. This is a conversation that is worthy its own blog post and then some.
However, for the most part, folks around the world are using “divine timing” as an EXCUSE to not make that choice they know they need to make, or take that action they know they need to take.
Success Block # 3: The Insidious Unconscious Mind
Your unconscious programming is insidious. IT IS WHAT IS ACTUALLY BLOCKING YOU from having what you want, NOT timing, NOT other people, NOT circumstances, and certainly NOT money or the perceived lack thereof.
(You are the infinite Source Energy in physical form…do you really believe you can’t have that because “I’m not meant for success?”)
Your unconscious mind also LOVES giving you excuses that someone or something else is the culprit for you not having what you want.
Those excuses feel so real that once you believe in them (and 99.99999% of the times, you will UNTIL you do this work), you’ll feel relieved.
It looks and feels like this: the tension is gone. You go back to same old routines. Same life. Same problems. Same relationships. Everything feels familiar.
Familiar. Comfortable. And still stuck.
That’s the little reward it gives you for…
STAYING INSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.
Here is a list of some common excuses:
- I am not made of that material.
- That’s not the way we do things around here.
- That’s not how I grew up.
- I gotta play it safe.
- I can’t afford it.
- I need to feel certain first before I make that decision.
- I don’t have the time.
- I know I’ll fail so I won’t even try.
- This is just not a good time for me right now with all that’s going on in my life.
- Whatever happens happens.
- It’s their fault (my parents, my spouse, my friends, my colleagues, my cat, the economy, government, Donald Trump, etc.)
- It’ll happen if it’s meant to be.
The list goes on and on.
Does any of that sound familiar?
The thing is, it is the job of the unconscious mind to KEEP YOU EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE.
It’s not doing it to hurt you. This is all it knows.
But you are not your mind.
Your 3-Step Solution
The great news is, you have 100% power to override everything that is stopping you from claiming the reality you want to be seeing, living, and leading.
Below, I’m sharing 3 steps for you to reclaim your creative power in life. I want you to succeed in your life, but none of these steps will mean anything if you don’t put them to work.
Step #1. Develop the Awareness
We are unaware until new information enters our consciousness.
If you’ve made it this far in this post, you are no longer unaware. Awareness is emerging.
Having the awareness is the first step to change.
When we were children, information was fed to us. To a large extent, we had no choice but to take on whatever we were taught.
As adults, it is our sole responsibility to learn new information so that we can expand our consciousness, and make different choices.
In this day and age where there is a ton of information out there, ignorance is a choice.
If something in your life isn’t working for you, realize that. Since all creations originate in the mind, commit yourself to first identifying the root cause of what’s contributing to the dissatisfaction in your life.
Then, do whatever it takes to get the support you need to rewire your thinking, set an aligned structure with consistent support, and make different choices. These are the first few things I do with my private 1:1 clients so that they can immediately begin to shift their internal world and create the success they desire.
Step 2. Develop the Discipline
Discipline kind of has a negative connotation to it just like desire. In truth, it’s an awesome thing to have.
Discipline is the best gift you can give to yourself. It is a form of self-love.
Discipline has to do with your willingness to create that foundation and structure, and commit yourself to DOING WHATEVER IT TAKES for you to create that which you truly desire.
Without discipline, it’s so easy to throw in the towel and tell everyone including yourself,
“It’s just not the right timing. I better put this off until I have more money, more security, and more…”
And then your dream gets put on hold indefinitely because the truth is, no one ever feels 100% ready and secure before taking a leap of faith. That is why it is called LEAP OF FAITH (I can tell you that I never feel ready with 90% of the things I do. I just do it).
How can you create the success you want in your relationship, in health, in career and money, and in your legacy project if you don’t have the discipline to say to yourself, “I’m going to take this step NO MATTER WHAT, and follow through with that?”
Yes, there are necessary processes and practices that go into manifesting what you want. One of the main elements I teach my clients is playing with the energies of the feminine and masculine when it comes to creating success and fulfillment.
Knowing how to do the dance with Divine (Divine is the higher power WITHIN you, NOT something outside of you) is absolutely crucial.
After all, 90% of what we create comes from understanding how to work with energy.
However, without the discipline or the will power to make the choice to engage in this co-creative process, you can have your entire room covered in vision boards, affirmations and gratitude lists, and nothing is going to come to fruition.
This isn’t just about “thinking positive” or “keep visualizing” which have their places in this process. This is about truly committing yourself to what you desire without giving into old patterns, habits, and excuses.
Truth bomb: you won’t like every choice you’ll have to make. You won’t like every action you’ll have to take. Some will feel exhilarating, some will feel scary, and some will feel downright shitty. Not everything will be peachy and you’ll make mistakes.
Personally, some of the choices I’ve made had me kicking and screaming because my little mind just wanted to freak out.
It always boils down to this: there is no right or wrong choice here. You can stay comfortable at exactly where you are (but is it really comfortable?), or you can be willing to get uncomfortable and take charge of your destiny. How badly do you want what you want?
The secret is, if you want it badly enough and are willing to go for it, you will always receive the exact support you need.
In the end, the Universe meets you half way. What you put out is what you receive, and that includes the amount of energy (time, financial resources, and effort) you invest into yourself.
Step #3. Develop the Self-Responsibility
I can go into all the details about what it means to take complete responsibility of everything in your life, both the good and the bad. But it’s actually very simple.
Substitute every “I can’t” with “I’m choosing not to…”
- “I can’t do this” becomes “I’m choosing not to…”
- “It’s not divine timing” becomes “I’m choosing it not to be divining timing.”
- “It’s not meant to be” becomes “I’m choosing it not to be…”
You are the Source. You are the higher power. There is nothing outside of you.
The higher power within you does not tell you that you cannot be, do or have something. In Its eyes, all experiences are possible. The higher power within you WANTS you to fulfill your highest potential.
Your limited and conditioned ego mind is the only thing that is telling you that you cannot be, do or have something. You do that because you are so used to taking orders from that “little me” that you have forgotten what it’s like to step into your power.
But when you tell yourself “I don’t have the…(money, time, resources, etc.) to create that,” and actually believe in it, you are diminishing your own power. You are flushing it down the drain.
This is going to be hard to stomach, but telling yourself you can’t be, do or have something is the WORST THING YOU CAN DO TO YOURSELF as a powerful, magical and magnificent creator/creatrix.
The truth is:
- You get to call the shots.
- You get to decide when is a good time for you to make that choice.
- You get to commit yourself to the process of playing bigger and receiving more.
- You get to clean up your inner house so that you can truly claim the infinite potentials that are yours.
- You get to take charge of your destiny.
Now that you have the awareness and steps, invite yourself to answer these questions:
- What do I truly want?
- How badly do I want what I want?
- What stories am I telling myself that this can’t happen?
- What am I willing to do to transform those stories?
- Is what I want worth it for me to deepen my awareness?
- Is what I want worth it for me to raise my commitment?
- Is what I want worth it for me to take full responsibility?
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