I hear this from people everyday,
“I know I am a powerful being. So why don’t I have the success I want yet?”
I define success as the conscious ability and process to freely and intentionally achieve a worthy goal we set for ourselves. This can be anything from starting a business to weight loss.
I’d love to share with you three of the most common unconscious success blockages. And three steps for you to transform them.
Success Block # 1: The Story Called “I Accept and Surrender”
“I am here to learn to accept life.”
“I surrender this to the universe…”
“If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be.”
When was the last time you said these things to yourself when you were hit with an urge to play bigger and to ask for what you really wanted in life?
Surrendering is beautiful and absolutely crucial at the right times…except, most people do not have a full understanding of what true surrendering means and when to do it in order for the co-creative process to unfold.
The truth of the story called “it’s not meant to be”, 99.99999% of the times, is equivalent to your unconscious mind convincing you “we shouldn’t do that right now because it’s outside of your comfort zone.”
(Btw, same goes for “I can’t afford that.” If you desire to create your next level financial abundance, this is the first story that NEEDS TO BE DROPPED).
You see, the big desires and goals we have can only be created outside of our norm, aka. our comfort zones. These exciting new chapters of our lives require us to be, do, and create in a totally different way – much different from what we are used to being, doing, and creating.
Needless to say, leaving the comfort zone is an uncomfortable experience for most people.
When this happens, it is the job of our ego mind to find ways to sabotage this, and stop us from leaving what feels familiar. It does so to protect us.
Success Block # 2: Does Divine Timing Exist?
Divining timing is big among spiritual seekers, so much so to the point that whenever they don’t have what they want, they believe it isn’t divine timing.
It can look like,
“I will invest in myself once my business picks up.”
“I’ll wait for a sign before making that decision.”
If you’ve had any psychedelic/awakening experience, or if you’re an avid meditator, you know time doesn’t exist.
You also know that you are the Universe. Or, an expression of it.
So when you are convincing yourself it’s not the right timing (and doing an awesome job while you’re at it), you are taking yourself out of the equation.
WHAT YOU ARE REALLY DOING is convincing yourself “I am choosing not to create that right now.” Living in a universe that responds to your strongest commands, you will get just that.
Since all future possibilities are activated in the only moment that exists for anyone – the moment of NOW, if you don’t make the decision to command what you desire in the now, then what you want isn’t going to come.
Or, it will feel like it’s always around the corner, but it remains so close yet so far. That money never comes through, and that decision never gets made.
To be exact, divine timing does exist, but it has nothing to do with actual linear time. This is something that shows up a lot in my work with private clients that require deeper coaching and guidance.
For the most part, folks around the world are using “divine timing” as an EXCUSE to not make that choice they know they need to make, or take that action they know they need to take.
Success Block # 3: Excuses
Truthfully, it is NOT timing, NOT other people, NOT circumstances, and certainly NOT money or the perceived lack thereof that is in the way, but excuses.
(You are the infinite Source Energy in physical form…do you really believe you can’t have that because “I’m not meant for success?”)
Those excuses feel so real that once you believe in them (and 99.99999% of the times, you will UNTIL you do this self-work), you’ll feel temporarily relieved.
It looks and feels like this: the tension is gone. You go back to same old routines. Same life. Same problems. Same relationships. Everything feels familiar.
Familiar. Comfortable. And still stuck.
Here is a list of some common excuses:
- I am not made of that material.
- That’s not the way we do things around here.
- That’s not how I grew up.
- I gotta play it safe.
- I can’t afford it.
- I need to feel certain first before I make that decision.
- I don’t have the time.
- I know I’ll fail so I won’t even try.
- This is just not a good time for me right now with all that’s going on in my life.
- Whatever happens happens.
- It’s their fault (my parents, my spouse, my friends, my colleagues, my cat, the economy, government, Donald Trump, etc.)
- It’ll happen if it’s meant to be.
The list goes on and on.
The trick is to spot the excuses, and treat them as what they are – excuses. They aren’t the truth.
Your 3-Step Solution
The great news is, you have 100% power to override everything that is stopping you from claiming the reality you want to be seeing, living, and leading.
Below, I’m sharing 3 steps for you to reclaim your creative power in life. I want you to succeed in your life, but none of these steps will mean anything if you don’t put them to work.
Step #1. Develop the Awareness
We are unaware until new information enters our consciousness.
If you’re still reading this post, you are no longer unaware. Awareness is emerging.
Having the awareness is the first step to change.
When we were children, information was fed to us. To a large extent, we had no choice but to take on whatever we were taught.
As adults, it is our sole responsibility to learn new information so that we can expand our consciousness, and make different choices.
In this day and age where there is a ton of information out there, ignorance is a choice.
If something in your life isn’t working for you, realize that. Since all creations originate in the mind, commit yourself to first identifying the root cause of what’s contributing to the dissatisfaction in your life.
Then, do whatever it takes to get the support and accountability you need to rewire your thinking, set an aligned structure with consistent support, and make different choices.
Step 2. Develop the Discipline
Discipline kind of has a negative connotation to it just like desire. In truth, it’s an awesome thing to have.
Discipline is the best gift you can give to yourself. It is a form of self-love.
Discipline has to do with your willingness to create that foundation and structure, and commit yourself to DOING WHATEVER IT TAKES for you to create that which you truly desire.
Without discipline, it’s so easy to throw in the towel and tell everyone including yourself,
“It’s just not the right timing. I better put this off until I have more time, more money, and more…”
And then your dream gets put on hold indefinitely because the truth is, no one ever feels 100% ready and secure before taking a leap of faith.
That is why it is called LEAP OF FAITH (I can tell you that I never feel ready with 90% of the things I do. I just do it).
How can you create the aligned success you want in your relationships, business/profession, health, and/or impact if you don’t have the discipline to say to yourself, “I’m going to take this step NO MATTER WHAT, and follow through with that?”
Yes, there are necessary processes, practices and strategies that go into creating tangible results. One of the main elements I teach my clients is the embodiment of their highest vision and level, and creating from that place.
Without the discipline or the will power to make the choice to engage in this co-creative process, you can have an entire room covered in vision boards, affirmations and gratitude lists, and nothing is going to come to fruition.
This isn’t just about “thinking positive” or “keep visualizing” which have their places in this process. This is about truly committing yourself to taking the actions without giving into old patterns, habits, and excuses.
Truth bomb: you won’t like every choice you’ll have to make. You won’t like every action you’ll have to take. Some will feel exhilarating, some will feel scary, and some will feel downright shitty. Not everything will be peachy and you’ll make mistakes.
It always boils down to this:
How badly do you want what you want?
In the end, the Universe meets you half way. What you put out is what you receive, and that includes the amount of energy (time, financial resources, and effort) you invest into yourself.
Step #3. Develop the Self-Responsibility
I can go into all the details about what it means to take complete responsibility of everything in your life, both the good and the bad. But it’s actually very simple.
Substitute every “I can’t” with “I’m choosing not to…”
- “I can’t do this” becomes “I’m choosing not to…”
- “It’s not divine timing” becomes “I’m choosing it not to be divining timing.”
- “I don’t have the money/time/motivation” becomes “I am choosing not to have the money/time/motivation to…”
You have the choice to command the Universe by impregnating it with your thoughts. You have the choice to master yourself. You have the choice to learn the dance of conscious co-creation, and apply it in all areas of your life.
The higher power within you does not tell you that you cannot be, do or have something. In Its eyes, all experiences are possible. The higher power within you WANTS you to fulfill your highest potential.
When you tell yourself “I can’t,” and actually believe in it, you are diminishing your own power. You are flushing it down the drain.
This is going to be hard to stomach, but telling yourself you can’t be, do or have something is the WORST THING YOU CAN DO TO YOURSELF as a powerful, magical and magnificent creator/creatrix.
The truth is:
- You get to call the shots.
- You get to decide when is a good time for you to make that choice.
- You get to commit yourself to the process of playing bigger and receiving more.
- You get to clean up your inner house so that you can truly claim the infinite potentials that are yours.
- You get to take charge of your sacred destiny.
Now that you have the awareness and steps, invite yourself to answer these questions:
- What do I truly want?
- How badly do I want what I want?
- What stories am I telling myself that this can’t happen?
- What am I willing to do to transform those stories?
- Is what I want worth it for me to deepen my awareness?
- Is what I want worth it for me to raise my commitment?
- Is what I want worth it for me to take full responsibility?
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