There’s so much talk of human design these days, but not enough on our original design.
When I became aware of the importance for men and women in our world to repolarize back in 2019, I realized the way for women to deepen into womanhood isn’t through feminine embodiment work alone, but through her relation to the masculine.
Meaning, in a partnership, how she relates to the man reflects and reveals her level of trust, surrender, and capacity to give and receive love.
Intimacy also brings out our “stuff” – our lifelong patterns, projections, as well as conscious and unconscious values and beliefs. It is through working through the stuff that we experience growth, and become more of who we are created to be.
Relationships are mirrors. Each of us can claim we are loving and caring, but it is in being with someone else, that we truly experience the inhale and exhale of love.
Within each man and woman, masculine and feminine polarities are core mirror energies that are made to exist in relation to each other. Together, they come into partnership and contribute to the integrity of our being.
This is one of the primary relationships that exists inside of each of us; it is our foundation. The quality of this internal relationship determines the level of happiness, attraction and connection we experience with the opposite sex. Each of us comes with this inner nuclear family unit, or inner community that dictates our self-image and attachment style.
There is one more member to this family unit – one most talked about, sought after, and misunderstood family member in the world. He is the head of the household.
If the feminine is the branch that bears flowers and fruits, the masculine is the vine, then He is the vinedresser. It is with, through, and in Him, that our inner family is made complete.
He is God, our Heavenly Father, and our Creator.
The problem is, we live in a world that has done everything to distort the image of our Father. Some, like my parents who are atheists, spend their entire lives without knowing He exists.
If you’re familiar with new age spirituality like me, you may argue that God is the indifferent universe/quantum field where all possibilities exist, a personal Genie who cannot wait to come out of the lamp to do our bidding, an impersonal blob of energy that molds itself depending on what we desire to manifest, a unit of father god and mother god the “divine masculine and feminine,” or, a higher self which is something between a personal soul and spirit.
After dedicating a large chunk of my life to new age, and finally being saved by Christ in 2020, I can say the greatest tragedy of mankind is we do not know our Father and His love for us. Each of us is an orphan or an abused child in a broken home until we know Him; NOT through religion, but through relationship.
While the original Father-child split occurred in the Garden of Eden (see my post What Adam and Eve want to Warn Men and Women Today About Relationships HERE), somewhere along the way, we’ve distorted and forgotten who He is. We’ve made our Father into a vague concept, rather than a person.
We also live in a world that is bombarded by personal and spiritual development propaganda that exaggerates self power. Thanks to the likes of Napoleon Hill and Tony Robbins, we’ve bought into the notion that through the self, all things are made possible. Mysteries are discovered, obstacles are conquered, goals are manifested, and salvation is achieved.
Then, in the new age world, there’s much boasting that each of us is god the creator in flesh, so the more we uncover our potential and get out of our own way, the more limitless we become, which usually guarantees an amazing income, good looks, sexual magnetism, and influence.
While there is great power to our words, emotions and choices, without spiritually anchoring in Him, we are paying a heavy price of carrying a broken family unit within us. You can read more about my blog post on why the Law of Attraction is rooted in the Father wounds HERE.
While a success/creator mindset helped me achieve many of my goals in the past, there was always a soul crushing burden of needing to play god. I was constantly monitoring my thoughts believing I was the center of my universe, and doing endless inner work in order to modify myself based on the newest trends.
I received guidance from “source energy” as to who to collaborate with and whether to drop another $20K in a personal development program to better myself. Yet it was an impersonal transactional experience. “Source energy” existed solely to offer me insights and grant my wishes.
One day in 2020, somewhere between finding myself exhausted in a conspiracy rabbit hole and reading the scripture, the idea “what would it be like to actually have a Father-daughter relationship with God” suddenly hit me so hard, that it initiated a deep healing and restorative journey of home coming. For my testimony, you can read Escaping the Spiritual Development Trap and Finding Jesus HERE.
You see, we are not only created in the image and likeness of our Father, we are also created to NEED Him. In fact, we are incomplete without Him.
You may love or hate this idea, but the truth is, we are not designed to become god onto the self. And it is the best news!
It doesn’t matter how many companies you have created and what figure your income is; you, me, and every human being on earth, is born with the same internal family unit with Him as the head of the household.
Each of us is a community rather than a “singular consciousness.” This is the non-negotiable original design of who we are.
When He designed us, He meant to be an integral part of our inner community, which means…
We are born with an empty seat at the head of this dinner table, that has His name on it.
We are born with a hole in our heart, that only He can fill, fill again, and then some.
We are born NEEDING His love and guidance, that only he can provide.
This is the spiritual emptiness that each of us, a lost supernatural being in a supernatural world, caught in the middle of the greatest spiritual warfare between heaven, earth and hell, feels within each cell and tissue.
Some people spend their entire lives seeking Him in different systems of spirituality, while others are busy filling the void with everything that is not Him, like money or status.
No, our Father isn’t sadistic. He didn’t create the hole to torment us. It’s there, because His biggest desire is for us to search for Him, just as He has been chasing after us every time when our heart is brushed and its strings are pulled.
He is saying, “Look at me. Fellowship with me. Let your reality BE me.”
Without Him, we are ships without a captain. Without Him, there is spiritual barrenness and death.
He is our true home. He is the loving Father whose breath sustains us from the very first moment we open our eyes when we come into this world. He is the keeper of our new heart, when we become revived in His grace.
Then the Lord God formed the man of dust from the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living creature.
And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.
When the Lucifernian new age spirituality deceives us into believing we are the god or goddess who is whole, complete, perfect and “enough,” an astrology chart or a human design chart is here to offer us every answer to our inquiry, or a “higher self” or some kind of “soul wisdom” is here to govern us, it has also ensured the hole in our heart will never be filled, that we will forever be walking around with this void, in a state of spiritual death.
Collectively, humanity is the feminine.
The design of the feminine is that she is to be LED BY the masculine, because she is the companion and helper to the masculine – this is co-creation.
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
Our Father who created us, as well as the Son, and the Spirit make up the Holy Masculine Unit that is meant for us to submit to in this life. This is our Divine Blueprint – the architecture of our destiny with God being the center of our universe. Our lives have always been to be an expression of His love. Except, this role has been filled by someone else, a cunning and insidious fallen angel– the prince of this world who governs this stolen kingdom.
Given the feminine is designed to surrender to masculine leadership, she can either be influenced by her inner masculine polarity, or a man with a strong presence outside of her. This is why the nuclear family unit has been under attack – families without a strong father presence are prime targets for external programming.
What do you think happens when collectively, we don’t know our Father – our intended head of the household, while the other masculine, the devil has been making himself available to us at every chance he gets, and impressing us with his signs and wonders?
“Keep affirming to yourself ‘I am enough,’ and enjoy all the glamour and glory it brings you,” he says.
“Work on your mindset because you’re a limitless creator and you’re the center of your universe,” he says.
“Don’t read the Bible, it’s just an old, boring and religious book,” he says.
“Show the world just how rebellious you are by going sexier and bolder on social media,” he says.
How can we flower and bear fruit, if we are not rooted in Him and His vine?
“I am the true vine, and my Father is the vinedresser.”
“Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. I am the vine, you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.”
If you ask, “What about my free will?”
The free will to create whatever empire we envision – a concept promoted heavily by personal development gurus, is actually the free will within our design to choose which Kingdom we want to be in.
There are only two Kingdoms competing to live THROUGH us right now – God’s Kingdom which comes from our choice to eat from the tree of life, or satan’s kingdom which is the tree of knowledge of good and evil.
Whichever masculine authority we abide in becomes the head of our inner household: this is the spiritual contract of our free will.
What we are witnessing in the world today, is humanity’s spiritual death from living in the wrong household, struggling for our breath, and suffocating in our cries for Him – our true Father.
I’ve seen how triggered men and women get, when God is mentioned. This is why so many in new age call God “the universe” because it feels much safer and self-empowering to believe we get to command that, as opposed to submitting to God’s will for us. Some even view it as a personal insult that we to submit to God’s authority.
I once had a client whose face fell the moment we got on this topic. Her reaction was, “My life has taught me that I can create everything on my own, and I bow to no one.”
I’ve seen women on social media writing blasphemous and angry statements about God from the spirit of pride and rebellion.
This is the father wound. It is a trauma so deep and agonizing, that we continue to react to it by making conscious and unconscious choices to push Him away even more, until we heal it.
We are hurt, because we don’t know Him, and we don’t have a personal, intimate, and secure relationship with Him.
We are hurt, because we don’t believe He has our best interest at heart, that His will for us is the most direct and graceful path to unlock our purpose and potential.
We are hurt, because the other masculine authority we’ve been following has done everything within his power to deceive us, abuse us, confuse us, wound us, and destroy us, in his upside down stolen kingdom.
The solution is so incredibly simple:
Initiate a personal relationship with Him. Invite Him to sit at the honorary seat at your dinner table. Ask Him to be the CEO of your life and head of your household. Rest in the new covenant He creates with you. Get to know Him through reading the scripture, which acts as a living portal that reveals to us His character, will, thoughts, and emotions (yes, treating Him as a person rather than a concept changed everything for me!).
Just like a loving father who wants to be involved in every area of his daughter’s life, who teaches her how to ride a bike, has long late night conversations about the boy she has a crush on, and walks her down the isle on her wedding day, the Father created you so that you can experience the love that He is. The Greek word for Him is “agape,” which means the highest form of unconditional love, as opposed to eros and philia, which are erotic and brotherly love.
Beloved, you were never meant to walk this life alone.
The more you know Him, the more you will also know who you are, IN and through Him – this is the piece of relation, reflection, and revelation.
When we gaze into His beautiful face through His Son – our bridegroom and our King, we can then, as His bride, as the feminine in His original design, each reflect a unique aspect of Him, whether it is love, truth, courage, wisdom, or compassion. The family unit is now complete.
In His presence, our lives are sanctified and transformed, and our faces begin to shine brighter, as we continue to adjust ourselves as a reflection of the true Light that is in front of our eyes.
In knowing Him and receiving His Son and Spirit, His reality – which is the only true Kingdom He has intended for us, will become more real to you than anything you’ve known.
Having dedicated my entire life to personal and spiritual development, and having mentored men and women of all walks from across the globe, I know this to be true:
There is no “self-work” that is more genuine, than knowing Him and knowing who we are in Him.
There is no healing that is more powerful, than restoring our original design and walking with Him.
Father. Masculine (Son-Christ). And Feminine (humanity).
Vinedresser. Vine. And the branch that bears fruit.
This is the nuclear family unit of our original design.
Just like the God unit that is a community of Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, as creations that are made in the likeness of Him, when we re-member – Father, Son, and bride, the union of the three polarities within each of us plunges us into the deep vast ocean of Him – agape. We are made complete and whole through Him.
This, is dying to self – singularity consciousness, and being reborn in Christ. This is the true definition of oneness.
At a certain point, He will become more real to you than anything you’ve known and imagined. His plans, emotions, character, and desires, will be the driving force of your life and destiny.
Everything – every moment of your life, every setback, every encounter, and every revelation, will finally make sense. All pieces of the puzzle will fall into place.
You will never want to be without Him again.
You will know what love, or agape really is, in coming face to face with His Son Jesus.
The gospel – the timeless tale of God’s creation which outlines our entire human existence, is the greatest love story ever written.
Looking to Go Deeper?
- I’m often asked for resources regarding starting, or deepening into a personal relationship with God. I highly recommend the YouTube channel of Christian Padron, an ex-new ager shaman who found Jesus (click HERE). His videos cover a wide range of topics ideal for those leaving new age and those who are returning to Christ, delivered with clearly articulation and thorough research. He also does weekly fellowship Zoom calls you can join (may I add they offer more value than some of the $20K programs I purchased in the past). All info of his calls are posted on his Instagram account, which you can follow @madeforhope
- Steven Bancartz has a wealth of information on his site (click HERE) and YouTube channel (click HERE).
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