Are you frustrated because self-doubt is crippling you from achieving your big goals and the type of success you desire in your personal, professional and spiritual life?
Do you go from “I know I am meant to do this” to “I don’t know if I can?”
I know what it’s like. One of the biggest themes that shows up for my clients who know they are meant to unleash their greatness is…self-doubt.
The manifestations of self-doubt vary from the very obvious to the more subtle.
The obvious forms of self-doubt look like this: the naggy voice of “I can’t,” the self-sabotaging thoughts around being seen and heard, the conviction of why this is not the right time to go for it, the excuses of not having enough time, experience or resources, as well as the fear of being judged for powerfully showing up and speaking your truth.
The more subtle forms of self-doubt can be missed by many. I’ve seen it more and more in coaching conscious, driven and high-achieving men and women. These subtle forms of self-doubt can look like perfectionism, overachievement, as well as overcompensation, like filling a luxury retreat program with more details and activities than the participants can possibly absorb as one of my clients was tempted to do.
In the end, everything in this life – health, relationships, businesses/careers, finances, and spiritual growth are extensions of the self. So if your results are suffering, it’s time to dive deeper within.
Before I move onto the one key in overriding self-doubt and stepping into your greatness, I’d love to share one of my favorite quotes from Marianne Williamson:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?”
The key in claiming your power, your gifts, your purpose and your zone of genius is this…give yourself permission to be, do, and create just that.
This is a permission slip you must give to yourself before you create your highest possibilities, and it can only come from you. Ironically, this is the one many of us struggle the most to obtain.
I know it sounds incredibly simple. I also know what it feels like when you are absolutely convinced you don’t have enough time or money, you need more credentials, or those in your family and circle aren’t supportive, etc.
The truth is, there will always be naysayers and challenges; this is just another part of this beautiful human experience of evolution and expansion.
More often than not, in fact, I’d say ten out of ten times, those seemingly impossible challenges are the universe’s gifts for us to get crystal clear on what we desire, and reclaim our power in this life.
In the end, none of those things can truly stop you if you only allow yourself to be that and do that, and your highest self knows that.
The trick is to only take orders from your Higher Self at all times, and cut through all the noise and bs that ends up wasting more of your time, money, and energy. The fastest way to do this is to work with someone who’s already embodied this aspect of conscious co-creation.
Think about that time when you achieved something against all odds.
Maybe it was a high school sweetheart you insisted on dating despite objections from your parents, perhaps it was a tough decision you had to make to take your company to a new direction.
Whatever that was, no matter how difficult the circumstances seemed, the highest power always lies in you – this physical expression of an infinite creative energy.
If you want something, the universe has a way. This is the Law of Polarity. This is the absolute truth. Everything else is a story attempting to prove itself to be true – filtered by the mind.
But the way won’t be shown to you until you grant yourself permission. The moment you claim that possibility whole-heartedly and commit yourself to following through, the way is shown.
This means, you can’t utter a faint yes while having one foot out the door, something I see all the time in those who claim they desire something, but aren’t committed to going all the way.
This also means, having plan B “in case” things don’t work out is not powerful enough for the way to be shown to you. You just can’t cheat energy.
As a spiritual entrepreneur who works with rather unconventional modalities, and having committed all forms of self-doubt listed above, giving myself permission to create my vision and success was definitely one of the most challenging ones for me, one with so many layers of self-imposed limitations.
Many years ago, it was about giving myself permission to leave a stable and comfortable 6-figure lifestyle with guaranteed pension, benefits and all nine yards to be a coach and mentor to awaken others.
Later on, when I began harnessing the power of psychedelics for business, leadership and spiritual expansion, it took me a very long time before I finally gave myself the permission to “come out of the closet” and stand by what I do.
Each time, I was ridden with doubt and fear.
My heart knew what it wanted, yet the little human mind freaked out with stories like,
“What if people judge me?”
“Will people think I am crazy for sharing my psychedelic stories?”
“What if I draw too much attention to myself?”
When I gave myself permission to just go ahead and do it, new energy, new people, new opportunities, new success, and new abundance began pouring in, almost immediately.
The same with my clients.
When they activate their highest faith and vision (this happens in the very beginning of my 8-Week The Embodied Conscious Creator Coaching Immersion), the way appears.
Suddenly, things line up for them in their lives and businesses.
Retreats get sold out. Investors show up. Productivity goes up, fueled by passion.
On a personal level, they unlock their brilliance.
They become fully self-expressed and empowered. They shift into their next gear – for some of them, they didn’t even know this next gear existed.
When we say no to playing small, and say yes to unleashing our unique talents, gifts and purpose, our lives and businesses level up exponentially. This is just how the universe works.
Part of this human experience is learning to navigate the sea of other people’s thoughts, beliefs and opinions, have the courage to disentangle from the invisible and self-imposed rules that limit you, and lean into your desires and vision by giving yourself permission to stand in your greatness.
And yes, you’ll need to do this over and over, until you are creating that which you desire regardless of others’ thoughts and judgments.
If you know you have a sacred destiny to fulfill, and you are ready to activate and step into your highest creative level, I want you to know this:
You came into this body with the potential of greatness; no one and nothing can take that away from you. You have the power to create a higher purpose that not only serves your highest good, but also the highest good of humanity and earth. You are also born with a specific set of unique gifts and talents that can help you activate and unleash your purpose.
However, the gifts and talents usually stay dormant until you give yourself permission to awaken to, and embody your greatness.
You can start embodying your greatness by doing these two things daily:
- Remember how important, unique and gifted you are. Acknowledge your infinite worth, and anchor in your wholeness, sovereignty, and perfection.
- Celebrate your essence by allowing yourself to be fully self-expressed in every area in your life, without shame, guilt, or self-judgment.
Say YES, and the way appears.